Singing to the World

Our eighth customer profile in our pre-Thanksgiving series, Butch, has found harmony. The president and board chairman of the Gay Men's Chorus of Honolulu croons about finding a home here after moving around quite a bit. He vocalizes his attraction to laughter and love and the sophisticated sensibilities of Ketel and tonic.

Where are you from? I was an Air Force brat born in Texas, and after a month, moved and kept moving — Florida, California, England, Nebraska, Korea (where I became enculturated in the deep sense of respect and duty to those older than us), and Hawaii (which I consider to be my home). How long have you lived in Hawaii? This is my third time living in Hawaii — going on sixteen years. I'm not going to leave again. What are your favorite qualities in a man? High EQ (ed. note: click here for definition). Ability to make me laugh, a lot! Appreciation for the awesome world we live in, yet knowing our place in and our obligation to it. He loves children (I have 2 daughters) and he loves dogs. He's capable of keeping me on my toes! What are your chief characteristics? Integrity, passion, compassion, a strong moral compass, and a textbook Logical ENFJ.

What do you appreciate most about your friends? My friends love me unconditionally, no judgement or blame. They make me laugh hysterically, at them and myself. They come from all over the world and are an extremely diverse group. They are as loyal to me as I am to them. What is your idea of happiness? An intimate moment, a great time with friends, performing on stage, spending quality time with my daughters, laughing and hearing others laugh. Anytime when I can experience zeal in life and share it with others brings me great happiness. What is your greatest fear? Falling off of something. I have terrible vertigo and even though I'm 6'2", heights are just not my thing. What is your idea of misery? Being stuck alone in a small enclosed space forced to work on Excel spreadsheets all day long and listen to twangy old-school country music while wearing nothing but pink.

What historical figure to you most identify with? Saint Simon Peter (he's historical, right?). He was always saying stupid things without thinking and sticking his foot in his mouth. Yet he ended up being the strongest one there, other than that Jesus guy. If you weren't yourself, who would you like to be? Ha! I've finally reached a place where I am happy to be myself, and then this question comes along………Well, now that I think about it,……No! I can't do it! I'm happy being me. :-)

Where else in the world would you like to live? I have fond memories of all the places I've lived and visited: 5 continents, 28 states. When it was time to choose a place to settle down, I chose Hawaii and I'm most content with this choice. This is home. What is your greatest extravagance? Anything to do with my girls. I bend over backward and sacrifice my own wants and desires to help them in their development and well-being.

Who are your favorite heroes in fiction? I'll admit it. I love Harry Potter. I also like Spiderman and Tigger (I have a thing for tigers). Oh, you said fiction, as in reading. How about Aslan. Sorry, two kids…remember? Which living or historical person do you despise? Hard question. I'm a glass half-full kind of guy. Sure I am not fond of those who posses a lack of integrity, or have a blatant disregard for humanity — but actually allow myself to get to the point of despising someone? That is not me. What talent would you like to be gifted with? I would love to be able to able to get inside peoples' minds and see what they are actually thinking. My training allows me to be fairly accurate and successful when I try to do this, but sometimes, well I can just never figure it out. Maybe I just don't get some people! Oh, and I always wished I could dance – well! If you were to die and could choose a person or object to come back as, what would it be? I love the ocean — and especially just being in the water. I think I'd be a merman. What's your personal motto? OK, this is a little long for a motto, but it works: "People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou said that.

What's your favorite drink? I love dichotomies – the yin/yang of it all. So if I'm  feeling uncomplicated, I fee like drinking, "Hair on your chest" kinds of beers, ales, darker beers and stouts. If I'm feeling sophisticated, then I go to Ketel Tonic with lime. What would you tell others about Bacchus Waikiki? Bacchus truly has the comfort and welcome of a neighborhood bar — I feel like part of the family when I'm there. They have been the most amazing, supportive, encouraging, gracious and generous hosts to the GMCofH fundraisers. And, let's face it, the bartenders are not only the kindest men, they're also hot! mean very handsome. Anything else to add? Being the President and Board Chairman of the Gay Men's Chorus of Honolulu, I would be remiss if I didn't take the opportunity to thank Bacchus for its overwhelming generosity and support of our organization and mission. And mahalo for asking me to participate in this questionnaire feature; it's an honor and a privilege. 

Thank you Butch for taking our questionnaire. We look forward to seeing you at Bacchus and at your upcoming concert on December 13th at the Hawaii Theater.