Flirting is an integral part of the social fabric of our lives.
Some people wink and flirt to get a little extra shot in their morning Starbucks. Others flirt to try to get an extra discount on a new pair of "gee, your butt looks hot" jeans.
Others flirt because it's fun to engage with people and get them to drop their shields (not their drawers) and see the fun, flirty side of them.
Even the subtlest conversations invite people to flirt, enticing each other to bring forth our truest sexy selves.
Most men, gay or straight, know how to turn on their little "love ya, baby" voice to make hearts melt. Men bring their own unique secret weapons to the flirt game.
Regardless of the romance playing field you stand on, most people either love or hate the art of the flirt. However, in Bacchus' observations, gay men (not all of them) are the hands-down masters of the art of flirting. Here is what gay men seem to understand that can help you up-level your flirt skills:
- Flirting Is Sexual, Mental, And Emotional: Gay men, the ones who've mastered the art of flirting, are all in, leaving nothing behind. Flirting is a full-on contact sport for us. We seduce the mind, body, and soul in their quest to lure the male object of their desire into our beds (or into their life).
- We're Not Afraid To Bare It All: What we know from Grindr, Scruff, and Growlr is that most gay men tend to put it all out there unapologetically. Pecs, penises and booties prevail in the photomontages of the gay app flirt world. Some would say, it's all about sex and the physical conquest for guys whose version of "hello" is a crotch shot followed by their butt and chest.
- Body Language Is A Language We Speak Well: Admittedly, we all use our bodies to communicate. Gay men, when flirting, tend to know exactly how to draw attention to all the right body parts in the art of their flirt. No, I'm not saying we point at our crotches, pecs, and butts. Gay men have a clever way of showcasing their assets without blatantly flaunting their goods like a harlot. That is except for when we're at a White Party, clothing optional resort or strutting their jocks at a gay pride parade. Then the flirts are more obvious.
- Inhibition Has No Place In Our Flirt Arsenal: Gay men, who have a solid dose of confidence, rarely manifest any depths of shame as we flirt. We are forthright, say what they want (and what we mean) to get the attention of their conquest. We utilize our best assets and never shirk away when asked, "Are you flirting with me?" Our answer is "Of course, and how do you like it so far?" We've overcome the fears of "not good enough," and step into the fast lane of flirting with clear intentions. While others might perceive it as "shameless," the truth is, the successful gay flirt is just uber confident and knows how to work it.
Flaunt it and flirt at Bacchus today and tonight. Enjoy $6 Absolut cocktails and $4 Baker + Butcher sandwiches. DJ/VJ Matt is up tonight and will make you want to flaunt and flirt a little bit more. No cover. Always fun. Come to Bacchus Waikiki!