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Two drinks for the price of one every Wednesday at Bacchus. DJ Kuya beats up the beats tonight at 10PM. No cover. Always fun! Join us.


How do you get his attention?

Lurking in the shadows isn't working! :-) The trick is to think outside of the box. While opportunities for gay dating might not always seem immediately obvious, once you start getting creative you’ll see that the possibilities for meeting the man of your dreams are virtually endless. There are probably dozens of ways to connect with the guy of your dreams that you haven’t even considered yet.

Does the thought of a sexy, rugged, outdoorsy man lit your fire? If you’re looking to meet gay men who share your love of nature, you’re in luck. There are several local groups like ManOH and that host events locally for men who are hardcore nudists and/or outdoors enthusiasts.

Does the deep, intellectual type make you swoon? If you’re looking to meet gay men whose brains are as big as their, uh, hearts, you have lots of options. Find events that will tickle your brainy future boyfriend’s intellect. Check out the local University, or better yet, Bacchus Trivia Night (next up, Monday, January 16th at 7PM).

Does the idea of a jock man make your heart skip a beat? If you want to meet gay men with a serious sporty side you need look no further than the Hawaii Gay Flag Football League. A group of local guys (and gals) interested in flag football, plus a whole lot more. The season starts in March, but before that there are Saturday morning pick-up games at Kapiolani Park (by the tennis courts), and an upcoming invitational tournament, called The Aloha Classic, that attracts lots of men from the mainland. Go watch the practice games, or sign up for the tournament. Many of the participants in HIGFFL can also direct you to other sports groups on the island.

(The photo above is from the Off-Broadway hit Naked Boys Singing*). Is there anything better than a guy who can sing? We think not. If you’re dying to meet gay men who can harmonize, you need look no further than the Gay Men's Chorus of Honolulu. There are lots of amazing singers in the chorus, but you don’t necessarily have to wait for a concert (and they don't perform in their underwear, but, hey, they've surprised us before!), the group is holding auditions on January 30th.

A musical connection can be the perfect way to meet the hilarious hottie of your dreams. Remember to not just look on stage for your next potential main squeeze — look in the audience as well. Your dream date doesn’t need to be a singer to have a great sense of rhythm and a choral concert is the perfect place to meet gay men who love to be entertained.

*The show has no plot; it contains 15 songs, about various issues, such as gay life, male nudity, coming out, circumcision and love (and that's your trivia hint for 1/16).

Could the man of your dreams be a nudist, nerd, jock or a singer? All four!?

The great news is that the key to meeting men that you connect with on more than just a physical level is to start by doing more of the things that you love to do. Whether you’re passionate about travel, films, political action or bicycling, finding ways to do more of those things will inevitably result in more gay men who share those interests crossing your path.

Bacchus is happy to be your meeting place.