Ask Bacchus: About This Guy…

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Dear Bacchus,
I've been dating a guy who I know is into me — but not as much as I am into him. He seems emotionally unavailable. He’ll sometimes disappear for long stretches of time and I won’t hear anything from him.

I'm not really looking for a relationship, but at the same time, I know that liking someone more than they seem to like you (even if they treat you well) can be a recipe for getting really hurt. I just can't seem to stop myself with him. Should I just get out now even though I don't want to, or do these things just have to run their course?

First off, most of us are quick to think that we’re more into other guys than they are into us.

Second, people’s feelings unfold at different rates, even in serious relationships.

You never know where things could end up between the two of you.

If he seemed disinterested in you, that would be a different story. But as long as he shows some specific interest in you and the connection between the two of you, don’t think him being slightly behind you feelings-wise needs to be a problem. Wait it out. But if it turns into a trivial relationship (the man who never shows up) like Samuel Beckett's Waiting for Godot, then you've got to move on. :-)

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