Too Shy

Every Thursday at Bacchus choose between 10+ tequilas and enjoy $5 shots. A little tequila to take off the edge and loosen you up. ;-)

A little throwback tune for you today.

Click the image below for some 80s avant garde music and hairstyles that are to die for!

Of course, it's Kajagoogoo's Too Shy. The band's first single released on January 10, 1983. It went on to top the British pop charts. The band started out in 1978 with the name Art Noveau, but the group added and subtracted band members and changed their name to an aliteration of a baby's first sounds.

The group's lead singer, Christopher Hamill, decided to change his name. He chose a trivial anagram of Hamill — Limahl. He would follow up his hit songs with Kajagoogoo with a singles career and the solo title song from 1984'sThe NeverEnding Story. He wasn't too shy. :-)

What about guys that are too shy?

Dating a man who is shy often comes with an extra set of complications compared with dating someone who is socially comfortable.

While it does depend on how introverted the guy is, many shy guys have a difficult time expressing themselves or being an active and confident member of whatever social environment they find themselves in.

It's important to note the difference between “quiet” and “shy.”

There are plenty of quiet people who feel total social comfort, who are very confident in themselves and who simply keep their mouth shut more often than not. Recognize the difference between someone who is shy and someone who is merely quiet.

And if your man truly is shy, then you’re going to need to take this into account when you decide how, and if, you’re going to take him out on a date. (A quieter night at Bacchus, for instance? Thursday nights are lower key than Wednesdays, Fridays and Saturdays.)

People overstate the difficulties of meeting, attracting and dating shy men. Yes, you probably aren’t going to seduce them by rubbing up next to them at Bacchus, and no, a shy man isn’t going to be the one to pull the trigger and pursue you aggressively.

But shy guys are pretty easy to take out on a date. You simply need to be the one who does a lot of the talking a lot of the time, you need to ask a lot of questions that relate to their interests (shy people often have deep inner lives), and you need to make every move.

Most importantly, if you want to attract, take out and seduce a shy guy, you need to have a bit of a thick skin and not think every misstep is rejection.

Sometimes you need to try multiple times to get a shy guy to go out with you, or to kiss you or to sleep with you, not because your shy guy doesn’t like you, but simply because his own insecurities gets in the way.

But with a little persistence and a sense of compromise, you’ll be able to snag that shy guy you’ve always wanted.

Whether you're shy or not, come on in to Bacchus today and enjoy $5 tequila and the friendliest bar staff in Honolulu. :-) You'll be glad you did.