Ask Bacchus: If You Could, Would You?

Tuesdays at Bacchus: a pint of any of our 12 tap beer selections is just $3. WOW! Grab a pint and watch the Red Sox v Yankees at 2PM.


It’s PRIDE month in Honolulu. It’s time to rejoice and celebrate our gains as a culture and society. We cannot ignore the past or be complacent about the future. We also need to be mindful of how we treat each other.

A February 2018 article in the US edition of theguardian.com addressed gays and self loathing with this subheadline.

So much focus has been on winning rights that we’ve missed the suffering of those still struggling with gay shame.

We don’t talk about it much, but many people struggle to feel at ease being anything other than heterosexual, even years after coming out. It became obvious that this was true when we overheard a question a young man posed to his group of friends at the bar. He asked,…

If someone had a tablet that could turn you from gay to straight, would you take that pill?

Why would you? Is there still shame in being gay? It’s true that many gay men look at themselves negatively, harshly and unfavorably. It’s time to stare the shame monster in the face.

Shame thrives on hiding, being kept away, locked deep inside. It hates exposure. The more you don’t talk about shame, the more it enables the feelings of not being good enough to elevate.

Take a pill? We recommend NO. We recommend to love who you are—and love that you are living your life! Be true to yourself, respect others and most importantly love others.

Instead, march with Bacchus in the Pride Parade on Saturday, October 20th.

The first “Pride Parade” was neither called “pride,” nor was it a “parade.” It was the not so trivial “1970 Christopher Street Liberation March” and commemorated the Stonewall Riots of 1969. There were no floats, no music, no boys in briefs. Instead, they held signs and banners, and chanted: “Say it clear, say it loud. Gay is good, gay is proud.”

No pills necessary! Maybe a beer or cocktail from Bacchus!

JL