That Look In Your Eye

$6 Absolut, all flavors every Friday; all day/all night. Video DJ Matt at 10PM. No cover - ever.

Look into those eyes and tell me what you see...

Do you ever feel like a dog being teased with a bone? How can you figure out if a guy is actually teasing you or if he just likes you (without asking directly, of course).

Guys can be really hard to read. But what can make it easier is looking for some simple signs. First, look and see if he’s showing the same type of attention to other guys at the bar. If he’s teasing a lot of people, he could just be a playful (or mean, depending on the type of teasing) guy. If you’re the only one he’s paying special attention to, though, that could be a good hint. If he’s joking around with you, and just you, there's a pretty solid chance that he likes you but either isn’t ready to say so (or doesn’t know how).

If his teasing is mean, though, then it doesn’t matter whether he likes you or not, because this is a guy that you don’t want to spend time with.

For some guys, figuring out their feelings can be hard. Teasing can be a flirty way to see if you have chemistry, or just a fun, playful way to pass the time. Sometimes, if a guy isn’t ready for a relationship yet, he might tease you as sort of a trial run, or to buy time for when he feels like he can get more serious down the road.

The best move, like it or not, is to say something. If he’s being playful, then tease him back—if the two of you develop a silly back-and-forth, it might mean there’s something there. If he’s being mean, tell him that if he’s trying to get your attention, he’s going about it the wrong way.

Basically: call him out.

You don’t have to directly ask him, but your guy might not even realize what he’s doing until you point it out to him. After that, you can judge based on his reaction whether he’s ready to step up to the plate and get serious, or if he’s just goofing around.

Honestly, though, the only fool proof way is to just ask him. Sometimes it’s better to be direct with people rather than to overthink it.

Ask for an Absolut cocktail today, any flavor and it’ll be $6. That’s the Friday special at Bacchus (along with our Noon - 8PM happy hour $4 well cocktails). Video DJ Matt is on the turntables and screens tonight with DIVAS! Maybe he’ll play this trivial tune written by Carole King. Join us. There’s never a cover charge at Bacchus and it’s always fun!