Saturdays at Bacchus: Jack Daniels (all flavors) just $6. The outstanding DJ Matt at 10PM.
Gay male couples feel a lot of pressure to remain sexually fresh, new, and exciting. That’s the popular stereotype.
“All gay men love sex and have it a lot.”
“If I were gay, I would be having sex all the time with my partner! Guys always want it!”
Check out this story in GQ.com that starts off:
The idea that all gay men fuck like rabbits? That's a myth.
Gay couples think that other gay couples are enjoying all kinds of adventurous sex. After all, aren’t gay men supposed to be sexually open and alive?
This is often not the case at all.
Gay male couples in long-term relationships (LTRs) complain that they haven’t been sexual for long periods of time—sometimes years. Their relationships turn into agreements to get sex outside their relationship, or they are only sexual with each other when it involves a third man.
New lovers feel an elation, exhilaration, and euphoria mostly due to their bloodstreams being flooded with trivial chemical cousins of amphetamines such as phenylethalimine (or PEA), dopamine, norepinephrine-all natural stimulants and painkillers.
So if they feel drugged, it’s because they are!
When first released, PEA is at its most potent, which is why you never forget your first love. PEA eradicates pain, lowers anxiety, makes the world bright and renewed-but above all, it heightens sexual arousal and desire for the beloved.
Over time, the exhilaration wanes and new stimulus is needed.
The stimulus won’t come from a Jack & Coke (at least not the Jack & Coke we’re serving up at Bacchus all day and all night for just $6). It’ll come from a well thought out plan to re-engage with your partner.
More on that next Saturday.