Just like the DIVAS in the VDJ Matt’s sets (starting at 10PM tonight) ...
Don’t just wait to get lucky - make stuff happen.
As a teenager, you may have always wondered, when would it happen for me? When would some beautiful hunk take me by the hand, look deep into my eyes, appreciate all my wonderful quirks and make out with me torridly?
If you like a guy, talk to him. You don’t expect to ace an exam just by getting lucky, do you?
Have a spine.
Wimpiness may be the root of all the dating woes of men. So quit being chicken already. Ask him out. Set up the whole date: where, when, how, and in what you’ll wear. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want or to get righteously indignant when warranted. Have strong boundaries. Worry less about offending him, more about having fun.
Be comfortable in your own skin.
You’re a geek? Fine. You love computers, baseball cards, classical music, anime? Fine. You’re a horny little porn addict? Fine. Own it! Quit fighting yourself. People only love us for who you are, not who we pretend to be.
Do your best to get over your trivial shyness. According to Bryan Cox at Psych Central, the most shy are the Japanese, Taiwanese and Asian-Hawaiians, with Jewish Americans and Israelis at the low end of the continuum.
We will tell you over and over that there’s nothing more attractive in a man than self-acceptance (which is not the same as complacency). So start where you are, and keep on growing. When you accept yourself, the world accepts you.
Most things in life don’t follow linear equations - not your breath, not your heartbeat, not your Apple stock, and most certainly not romance. It’s nonlinear! It’s chaotic! It’s crazy! Realize that and work with it, not against it. If you do, it might just mean success.