All you want is for him to like you back.
Invite him out to Bacchus for a cocktail ($6 Jack today) and/or DJ Takai’s set tonight at 10PM. Or bring him to the Tony’s tomorrow at 7PM or sing along with him to songs at Stage & Screen Night on Monday. Get to know him better at Bacchus.
You think you’re dropping enough hints and sending signals for him to get the message but he’s just not responding.
Trouble is, you don’t know whether he’s ignorant of the message or just not bothered. In most cases, unless you’re brave enough to make the first move, it is probably best to move on and forget him. That however, will not stop you wondering why nothing came of your crush. You want some clues why he doesn’t like you back.
Could you be trying a little too bit hard to get his attention and win his affections?
Sometimes this can look a big desperate, and being desperate is a total turn off!
He likes someone else.
You might not like it, but you won’t be the only man in his life, and if he is romantically interested in another, you’ll have to bit the bullet and accept it.
You’re too available.
Some men tend to want something that they can’t have, so try not to make yourself so available and he might finally take interest.
You’re not his type.
When this is the case, no amount of trying can help the situation. Just like you wouldn’t want to date someone you’re not attracted to, neither would he.
You’ve been ‘friend zoned.’
Friend zoning works both ways. It might be the case that in his eyes, the two of you have become too good a platonic pair to rock the boat.
He’s not sexually attracted to you.
He may think that you are the most beautiful man in the world, but if there isn’t a sexual chemistry then it simply isn’t going to work.
You’re not compatible.
Some pairs of people are just not compatible as lovers, so if he thinks that you aren’t right for each other, you have to respect that.
You have different personalities.
If you have quite different emotional temperaments, a relationship between you could be more trouble than it’s worth.
He’s not ready.
It could be that he’s just not ready for the kind of relationship that he thinks you might want. Perhaps let him know your feelings and you can take it slow.
Let’s face it; some men need a little kick in the right direction! He may have absolutely no idea that you are even interested in him!
He wants to be single.
There are all sorts of reasons for this. It might be a lifestyle choice because he just wants to have fun with his buddies.
You may never know the reasons your crush doesn’t like you back. Whatever his reason(s), it’s not worth putting your life on hold. Time to move on.
But Wait! A Crush Can Be Delicious! Trivia buffs know that there are also cocktails called Crushes. They’re cocktails typically made with flavored vodka (or bourbon), fruit juice and something sparkly, like Sprite or club soda. Let’s turn it into Honolulu’s drink of the summer!